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Reuben

Reuben Firstborn of Jacob, Who Lost His Birthright

Old Testamentc. 1921 BC View journey on map

About Reuben

Reuben was Leah's first son and Jacob's firstborn. He tried to save Joseph from his brothers and meant to bring him home. But he had lain with Bilhah, his father's concubine, and on his deathbed Jacob called him unstable as water and gave the birthright elsewhere.

Events in the life of Reuben

Joseph sold by his brothers
Joseph sold by his brothers

Dothan · GEN 37:28

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Reuben's Character Traits

FirstbornWell-meaningUnstable as water

Reuben's Life Timeline

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  1. Birthc. 1921 BC

    Leah bears Reuben, Jacob's firstborn, and hopes to be loved.

    GEN 29:32

  2. The mandrakesc. 1908 BC

    As a boy Reuben brings mandrakes from the field to his mother.

    GEN 30:14

  3. With Bilhahc. 1890 BC

    Reuben lies with his father's concubine, and Israel hears it.

    GEN 35:22

  4. Saving Josephc. 1888 BC

    Reuben talks his brothers out of killing Joseph, meaning to bring him home.

    GEN 37:21

  5. The blessing withheldc. 1859 BC

    Jacob calls him unstable as water; he shall not excel.

    GEN 49:4

Who is linked to Reuben

Who is linked to Reuben
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  • in conflict with

Reuben's Key Relationships

Jacob
JacobFamily

Father - Reuben was his firstborn, and lost the rank by his own act.

Leah
LeahFamily

Mother - she named him for her hope that Jacob would love her.

Joseph
JosephFamily

Brother - Reuben alone argued to spare his life at the pit.

Bilhah
BilhahFamily

His father's concubine - the act that cost him the birthright.

Reuben's Key Locations

Haran
Haran

Where he was born, the first of Jacob's sons.

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Dothan
Dothan

Where he tried to save Joseph from the pit.

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Spiritual Lessons from Reuben

Good Intentions Are Not a Character

Reuben meant well twice: he saved Joseph from murder and offered his own two sons as surety for Benjamin. Both times he acted late, half, and alone. Jacob's verdict was not that he was wicked but that he was unstable, and instability cost him what cruelty cost his brothers.

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